Being a virgin later in life can be, perhaps above all things, an incredibly isolating experience. Some people grew up in religious communities or single-sex schools, which made sex more elusive or taboo. Other people felt unattractive or insecure growing up. Struggles with health, sexual orientation, and gender dysphoria were also common. For almost every single person, the biggest worry was not being good at sex, a very normal concern no matter when you lose your virginity. The longer you wait, the more experience potential partners likely have—and that disparity can heap on more pressure.
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For those less familiar with the ABC dating show, the "Fantasy Suites" are the Bachelor's first and only overnight dates with his three remaining girlfriends before maybe proposing to one of them—and the dates are not on camera. This show is wild! The Bachelor currently stars Colton Underwood, a year-old former football player, charity enthusiast, and handsome jock-next-door. This season of the show can't stop talking about one thing: his virginity. It's not a will-they-won't-they love story this time around, but a will-he-won't-he-lose-his-virginity situation. It seems like every Bachelor promo mentions his lack of experience, referencing his virginity as some sort of abnormality, or at the very least something that makes him a rarity. This heightened attention around Colton's virginity is sending a pretty messed-up message.
Tracey Cox reveals why men are losing their virginity much later than ever before
By Tracey Cox for MailOnline. It's one stigma that's held fast — yet it's far more likely you will encounter a late life male virgin than ever before. The Next Steps study which charts 16, millennials says one in eight British year-olds are still virgins: some estimate it's more likely to be one in six.
In these open-minded times, one taboo has held steady: never having had sex at all. Four thirtysomething virgins explain how they deal with the stigma. If it seems as though taboos about sex have lifted in these ostensibly open-minded times, there is one that holds steady: the stigma over never having had sex. It may be that later-in-life virginity is dismissed as a problem with an easy fix. And the most recent data available, from , suggests that just 2.